Whispered endearments between lovers seem private, intimate, and domestic – as if they happen out of time, protected from scrutiny and judgement. Yet in Shakespeare’s Othello, between Orwell’s Winston and Julia, and the contemporary form of note passing, texting, our sexual lives and desires are surveilled, whispered about, and judged. Thinking about our intimate experiences and private thoughts becoming public might be disconcerting, making us feel exposed. To be constantly under observation and observing others has the possibility to change how we understand our relationships and even how we might see and understand ourselves. Do our words and actions lose their truth and become a performance? Are we withholding and making silent that which we wish we could share?